Unfortunately, you will be dealing with powerful and painful emotions as you walk on the journey toward recovery and freedom from the chains of addictions. Feel free to look up support groups and communities online and offline, but find the support you will need to face the demon’s of addiction. Start chasing recovery like you chased the drug of your choice and learn all about your personal triggers that cause you to want to get high. Discover ways to avoid these triggers and ways to remove toxic people from your life.
Each new step will challenge you on how to understand the spiral effects of your own bad choices have made in your life. However, you must also learn how your addictions are tempted and what causes you to feed your addictions. Does something or someone cause painful emotions which you hide when getting high? Masking your feelings with the drug of your choice is not the answer, but facing these feeling will cause you pain yet dealing with them will also allow you to find a sense of peace or closure about the problem.
Freedom from addiction and breaking the chains actually will challenge you to become a new creature, who is powerless until you submit to your own personal higher power or God. Never give up fighting for your own recovery and choose life full of love as well as joy. Chasing recovery is the bravest thing you can do, yet you will find the strength you thought you didn’t have during this process. Be proud of each step and hold your head up high, while you do all chase a new life that starts with chasing recovery daily just like you chased the drug you couldn’t live without.
Make new memories with your loved ones and get the help you need to stay sober. Stay motivated and inspired, while spreading your message of recovery and redemption to others. Chat with me and soon we will offer more support resources.
Written By, Crystal S Kauffman
Have you struggled with forgiving someone, who has hurt you or abused you? Do you find yourself thinking about it a lot lately? If so, this is normal to feel, whenever someone you trust has intentionally hurt you. However, you must find a way to give your hurt and pain to the Lord, for he will release you of the burden of guilt. Then, he will help you learn how to forgive those, who have victimized you or someone you love.
The first memory verse is: Acts 3:19…“Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord.” (KJV)
As you recite this verse, remember that you must confess all of your sins against God and others. Once you ask him to forgive you for all of your sins, he is just and will erase all of your sins immediately. For we must spend time, learning exactly what forgiveness truly is, because it can hinder your spiritual growth. Honestly, forgiveness is ceasing to be angry over unacceptable behaviors that have affected you.
By forgiving someone, you are not giving them your permission to repeat the behaviors that hurt you. Instead, you should recognize the feelings that you feel, since these emotions are only going to cause you pain. Be honest and ask for the forgiveness of others, once you have evaluated your role in the entire situation. This way, you can free yourself, from the burden of bitterness and anger that can lead to depression.
The second memory verse is 1 John 1:9…“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (KJV)
Recite this verse, as you begin your transitional journey from being a victim to becoming a survivor. No matter what has happened in the past, you can fully overcome its negative effect on your life. However, you must forgive others also, for the pain and anguish or their behaviors or actions to stop. But, by allowing the offender to receive mercy, you are becoming worthy of God’s complete forgiveness.
No longer will you receive condemnation, instead you will find peace that passes all understanding. In that moment, you will feel the burden of your guilt start melt away as the anguish disappears. Suddenly, all of your past iniquities will be washed away and fully forgotten by your heavenly father. Therefore, you will become a new creature in Christ, who is totally blameless and spotless before God.
Written By, Crystal S. Kauffman
Lifestyle changes are hard and painful at first, but soon you will become stronger with each step you take. You are walking a new journey that will require you to push yourself beyond your personal comfort zone.
Embrace the strength that you will unleash with each new step you face, as you walk the path of recovery from the brutal snare of addiction. Each small victory will lead you to a life that is full of big triumphs daily. Hold your head up high, because you are winning the battle against your addictions and yourself.
Your addiction is not like your sister or your brother’s addiction, because it is tailor-made for you. As your becoming sober, you will be forced to decide how you will clean up the mess you created. Each day, you will find the courage to dream again, especially once you learn to believe in yourself again.
Many times, you will find that you are not missing the craziness that the demons of addiction brought to your life. Maybe you will forgive yourself for the bad choices you made. Only you can make your life manageable by starting to take each step that leads to a life filled with joy and peace.
Start taking each step daily as you begin your path to recovery and redemption. You won’t gain everyone’s forgiveness, but do your best and keep moving even when you have a setback or a delay. Keep going and you will learn new ways to cope with life’s disappointments.
Keep telling yourself, “Your Past Does Not Define You!”
This is a magical time of year for children who believe in Santa, but this time of year can be depressing or even sad for many recovering addicts. So many parents go into major debt, just trying to buy their children that latest new toy or gadget. Instead of focusing on the gifts you have given out this year. So, be sure to spend some one on one time with those special family members that you love like: your parents, significant other, or children.
Remind yourself of each step that you have taken to better yourself this year, while taking inventory your life. List the many different things, which you have learned this year as you became a better version of yourself. Take a moment to notice the things that you still need to work on, as well as the things that you need to let go of in this new year.
Allow yourself to feel a sense of pride, as you remember how far you have come since you began your personal journey of recovery. No one can take away your accomplishments or your joy….but you! So, Hold your head up and keep on rocking sobriety as you gain back all the things that you have lost throughout your active addiction.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
Leave the date you entered recovery or sobriety in comments….
By, Crystal S. Kauffman
Each week, stop for a few moments to create a list of five positive things that are true about yourself or your character. Begin repeating these statements to yourself in the morning and repeat them as needed throughout the day. Especially, during the difficult moments when you begin feeling down about yourself. Start your list by writing a list of five honest, yet positive statements about yourself and your character.
Be Brutally Honest About Yourself
As you create a list of five positive things, you will need to be honest about your individual qualities. This way, you will know you are speaking the truth as you recite the five statements to yourself. Being honest with yourself will help you lear to identify positive qualities that you possess. These positive facts or honest qualities will begin to build up your self-esteem.
Repeat This List Many Times A Day
This newly created weekly list will help you build up your self- esteem, so write it down and be sure to write neatly. You will be displaying this completed list somewhere in your home to remind you to repeat the list many times a day. Furthermore, consider storing a copy of each new list on your smart phone, but be sure to use an app like Google Docs or Notes.
Use this weekly list to inspire you as you build your dreams!
By, Crystal S. Kauffman
You may find yourself becoming depressed around the holiday season, especially when you have no family to spend time with on those special days. Honestly, it is hard to face or even celebrate the holidays, after losing a loved one throughout the past year to illness or even incarceration. This can make you feel like you have no reason to even celebrate the upcoming holidays, but don’t allow yourself to feel this way. However, you have to push past the holiday blues and remind yourself of the many reasons you have to be thankful and to enjoy this holiday season.
Thankfully, you have chosen to change your life and you have been walking on a new path of recovery that shows your progress each new day. You are no longer a slave to a drug, instead you have regained full control of your entire life and you have also gained a freedom that is worth celebrating. Hopefully, you will forgive yourself and celebrate your new found freedom with your close friends and family. If you need someone to talk too, then get yourself to a meeting or call your sponsor immediately.
Even five minutes of depression is too much, so get help immediately for what is making you feel sad and blue. Unfortunately, you will feel like you are facing this situation alone but you must remember that your higher power is listening to you as well. No matter what you are feeling blue about, you can always reach out to your friends and you will find that they need your company as well. So, with that said, get out of your depression and enjoy the holiday season with all those people that you love as well as those that need you too.
By, Crystal S. Kauffman
Unfortunately, being completely blindsided by someone you trusted to follow what you have agreed upon However, they have chosen withhold crucial information from you that you actually needed to know. This is one of the things that will cause you to feel betrayed. Especially, when you never saw this type of behavior coming and you were led to believe something that is untrue.
Honestly, it doesn’t really matter who has betrayed you, because you feel stupid for even needing or trusting anyone in the first place. Everything that you thought you knew was completely wrong and now you are the dumbass again. This person has suddenly forced you to accept this new reality, which don’t approve of anyway.
This is one the most frustrating parts of the entire betrayal, because you now have no voice and you cannot stop what has happened. Even though you tried to avoid this pain altogether, by handling this yourself but you get blindsided and hurt.
This trauma is seared into your brain and you have tried to forget it, but all you can think about is you made the choice to leave and left them in charge. Avoiding this kind of trauma is hard to do, especially as an emergency is happening again. Always remind yourself that you have been completely shattered by those you thought would respect your choices.
However, you can make a different plan for next time a situation arises, so you don’t get lied to again In those situations.
Change who you let in your inner circle, because then you may find people who actually care about your mental health in any traumatic situation that you may face. They might even care to help you process and with the feelings that you are struggling to understand in the aftermath.
By, Crystal S. Kauffman, Staff Writer
Congratulations, on finally deciding to admit that you absolutely need help to become sober. First and foremost, accept that you are a struggling addict, who is utterly powerless against this powerful demon. Did you know your story will inspire others that are struggling with addiction also. Honestly, you must be absolutely honest will yourself and confess what your drink or drug of choice maybe.
Next, acknowledge that you are constantly rchasing this addiction and the supplies that you need.
Second, admit that you have already have done some really shady shit to get this drug, whenever you needed or wanted it. Unfortunately, you cannot beat this addiction on your own, because you will have to face withdrawals and your own personal demons.
For many years, you have been running from your own frightening demons for years and covering up the pain with your drink or drug of choice. You are suddenly forced to see your inner and outer scars that you have avoided thinking about since they happened. Honestly, just knowing that every single scar that riddles your body was payback for the life that you have chosen. No matter what your drug or drink of choice is, you will find yourself helpless and surrendering to a power greater than yourself.
No matter what you believe in spiritually, you cannot fight addiction alone and you cannot stay in the same environment either. If you really want recovery, just walk away from everyone who does drug or drinks in your life. Cut everyone off and be sure no to remain friends, because they are a lasting connection to get your drug or drink of choice. You will need to immediately start making your final escape plan, which includes moving to a new area of town or a new city.
You could try to get accepted into a recovery program or rehabilitation center, so you can learn and use effective use coping skills when experiencing the roller coaster of emotions that come with the painful withdrawals. Remember to always tell yourself that the pain will not last, because you are getting stronger every single moment and it starts today! Right this moment, you are choosing to become sober for your own reasons and you have diligently fought off temptation.
Every moment of this beautiful day, you are fighting the urge to just go out and use the drink or drug of your choice. Every tiny step is a victory and every moment passes, so hold your head up high as you walking now. This is one of the most important and yet bravest decision you will make, in order to get your life to eve resemble normal. Unfortunately, it is not going to be easy to fix your hot mess of a life in a few days or months, yet with long-term sobriety and hard work on learning new ways to live without your drink or drugs of choice.
Remember…You’re a beast of warrior for choosing sobriety, but hang on tight and never ever give up no matter what!
By, Crystal S. Kauffman, Staff Writer
You must learn to reprogram your mind, whenever you are fighting to regain control of your life from active addiction. You must remember that you always attract the same energy that you give off to other people. If you are a negative person, then you will magnetically attract negative people in your life. However, when you change the way you think, you will begin to attract positive people in your life.
Many times, you have to walk away from the old friends, in order to make a new life for yourself. Don’t be afraid to change your surroundings, because you will find that better things are waiting for you, once you let go of the negative things in your mind and life that are holding you back. Changing your mindset will allow you to meet new people and land life changing opportunities, which can actually change your entire life.
You will find that being around positive people and thinking about positive things is so much easier than stressing or obsessing about the negative in your life. Create a journal and write down all the positive things in your life every single morning and night. Stay focused on those positive things in your life, in order to continue attracting positive things in your life.
If you begin to think negatively, stop and reprogram your mind immediately! Never let the intrusive negative thoughts overwhelm your mind, since these thoughts can cause you to relapse and you may not make it out of active addiction this time. Always look for the positive things in your life, because they will help you stay focus and give you countless reasons to love your life.
Positive attracts positive, but negative attracts negative. Always remember that!
By, Crystal S. Kauffman
Many times in your life, you will need to evaluate the people who are in your life and their actual value to your life. You will need to ask yourself some important questions about their true character, before you hang out with them for even a moment.Remember, cut ties with any family and friends who are absolutely toxic to your recovery. However, some people are dangerous to your head and you need to know who they are.
These type of people will literally drain every ounce your joy and happiness, because they refuse to get help for their own mental issues. These people tend to be negative and mean, especially when you have good news Unfortunately, they will make you feel like you cannot do nothing right, because they will say negative things about you to your face. The disrespect is constant and tiresome, but you try to overlook these negative qualities because you love them.
Honestly, the pain of letting go, actually hurts less than to stay and endure this type of mental abuse from anyone around you. You may think you need someone, but you don’t need to be bullied in today’s modern society. Honestly, there is cell phone applications for all that you may need: from shopping for groceries, buying restaurant dinners or fast food, clothes, household items, delivery, and rides as needed.
Never allow someone to talk to you that way and always look out for yourself, because no person will ever love you like you love yourself, Don’t give a negative person a single second of your time, because you will end up letting their words enter your head. Don’t spend a second too long, wondering what is wrong with you because of the things these type of people say to you. Truth is, there is nothing wrong with you, they just don’t respect or value you as a person,
So, with that said, identify these people immediately and stop allowing them to enter your life in any type of way. Ask yourself about how a person makes you feel, whenever they talk to you or when they are hanging with you? Only keep the positive people around you, because you will find encouragement and wisdom from them. Now, take inventory of your loved ones today and change the narrative of your story from a negative to positive.