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The Final Choice Is Yours


By, Crystal S. Kauffman 

Are you struggling with thoughts of using drugs, while you are in recovery? Do you really believe that you can do it one and lay it down again? Did you know can be clean for several years and still struggle with thoughts of using the drug of your choice?

Honestly, as a recovering addict you cannot just walk away after using again, because you will want more. Actually, your lying to yourself, if you believe that you can control the monster or demon inside of you. However, the brutal truth that you must tell yourself that you are an addict and you cannot ever use your drug of choice again. 

Relapsing even one time, can lead to your immediate death or destroy the progress that you have made in recovery so far. No matter what anyone says, the choice is yours and only you will face the temptation of wanting use drugs again.

During this time, you may feel weak or overwhelmed with the constant nagging inside your mind that you must face alone.  Take time to identify the people, places, and things that are triggers and stay away from them at all times.  Unfortunately, you need to keep your distance from people who use drugs, especially the ones that are using your drug of choice.

After some time in recovery, you will have enough strength to face your own monsters or demons that are screaming in your head. It is s up to you to make the choice that is best for you and your situation. Nothing in the world is worth losing your sobriety over, so guard your mind against all forms of temptations.

are never the answer, but asking for help from a trusted loved one or a friend who can actually help you stay on track. If you are in recovery, then let me say I am proud of the progress you have made so far. Keep your head held high and know that your beautiful, as you keep moving forward toward your dreams or goals.  

Copyright 2019 

(I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal knowledge.)

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Celebrate Your Sobriety


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Becoming sober is a difficult thing for a person who is living with and feeding their addition. Some people count the days and months that they have been in recovery. Be proud of making it to recovery, because many actually don’t make it to getting sober. You should celebrate you recovery in a way that feels right to you.

Every month, begin planning a small celebration on your sober anniversary. Ask your healthy friends and family to join you in honoring your choice to remain sober. Your anniversary night could be a quiet dinner or going to the movies. Do something you never did while living in addiction, which could be going bowling or a day at the beach.

Just do something for yourself like buying a new outfit or shoes. Try to spend just $20 toward yourself and buy yourself a reward for staying strong. Celebrating each small victory that you achieve and be proud of your progress. Rewarding yourself can help you stay focused and sober.

Copyrighted 2019

(I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal experience.)

Posted in addiction, Change, crystal s. kauffman, Family, illness, Life

Changing Your Inner Circle


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Are you living with an addictive personality, but you are sober right now? If so, then you need to change some keys things in your life right now! Separate yourself from everyone that will help feed your addiction, as well as anyone who chooses to use drugs themselves. Chase your sobriety like you chased the high that you craved from the drugs you chose to use.

Protecting yourself and your mind from bad influences that are lurking inside your inner circle truly is the only way to manage your addictions. Family and friends can influence you in ways that any other person could not. The only way to control your addictions is to stay away from those who are actively using. Honestly, you cannot just say that their use will not affect you, because it absolutely will tempt you.

Remember that you will always live with an addictive personality and you will need to manage your sobriety just like any other chronic disease. Recovery is possible, once you become honest with yourself and others. Asking for help is so vital to becoming and maintaining a sober lifestyle. Active remove people out of your life that have chosen to feed their addiction. Don’t give up and don’t stay anywhere near active users, because you will relapse.

You know these people are no longer someone you will want to hang around. Temptation is around every corner, so be sure to keep you inner circle drug free. After cleansing your inner circle, begin adding family and friends who are supportive and will hold you accountable when you start going down the wrong path again.
Cutting active users will help you, as you begin the brutal process of healing the pain that you were trying to numb with the drugs. Don’t be afraid to get help from a psychiatrist or counselor, since mental health issues can trigger a relapse. Fight for your life and sobriety, because choosing to feed your addiction may kill you.

Start protecting yourself by cutting all contact with active drug users and surround yourself with loved ones who encourage you to stay sober. There are support groups online that you can talk with anytime of the day and night. When you are struggling to make it through the day, just remember to breathe and get through the moment of weakness. Therefore, take an honest inventory of your friends and family members before their influence can poison your mind.

Copyrighted 2019

(I am not a licensed therapist. Based on my personal experience.)

Posted in addiction, Crystal S. Kauffman

Escaping Depression’s Brutal Snare


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

It is normal to feel down or sad at times, because we are human and we are filled with a range of different emotions. Some common emotions we feel are love, anger, happiness , sadness, loneliness, hopeless, fear, shame, pride, and jealousy. However, actual depression is completely different, since it doesn’t just go away after a few days. Depression is a mental health disorder that usually requires medications and a therapist or a counselor that can teach you ways to combat or cope with your every day life.

If you are feeling hopeless and worthless most every day, please talk to Someone and get help. Don’t allow yourself to become ensnared by depression’s brutal grip, because untreated depression can literally cause you to harm yourself or others. Did you know that depression may just be a symptom of an undiagnosed mental health disorders like: PTSD, Bipolar, ADD or ADHD, and/or anxiety?

Honestly, you will need to seek help to overcome the symptoms of depressions that you are experiencing. Especially, before you become suicidal or broken apart by circumstances you cannot control. Sometimes, your treatment will include prescription medications and speaking to separate therapist.
You will learn effective coping skills for the mental issues you face, but you must be truthful about your situation.

Don’t ever feel weak for asking for help, because it is a sign of strength to admit you have lost control of your life. Many factors can cause depression like dealing with health, relationship, and work issues. However, your addictions can cause depression as well, but just admitting you have a problem is half the battle of becoming free of addiction’s brutal clutch. Some people will look to God or their higher power to help them whenever they are trying to overcome their symptoms of depression. You can beat this, but It requires you to be brutally honest with yourself and others in your life.

Copyrighted 2019

(I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal experience.

Posted in addiction, anger, Change, Crystal Kauffman, Crystal S Kauffman, Crystal S. Kauffman, dancing with anger, Fight, forgive, Freelance writing, Healthy Living, imogen rayne, Life

Don’t Ring That Bell


My Uncle once told me that, “Sometimes our words ring a bell when we speak them out loud!”

An unbearable amount of pain can come from someone words, especially when they can literally cut a person’s heart to pieces. Sometimes, people are dealing with things that you may not know about, so be kind when you speak. Lately, I have been trying to watch my own mouth and not say mean things to anyone, since I have been trying to get right with God. However, some days I fail too and my anger erupts like a volcano and I am saying stuff I completely regret.

Do not say something if you don’t mean it, since not everyone will forgive you for the mean things you have said. Everyone can be very mean with their words, but you must change the way you react when you are angry at a person. Try to be quiet and say a prayer, whenever someone seems to be pushing all the right buttons and your anger is swelling. Take a deep breath or listen to your favorite music, which may help you calm down.

Don’t say something that you cannot take back, just because you are angry and someone is relentless and is constantly pushing you to your limit. The anger swells like the lava in a volcano and before long you are spewing venom from your lips. Instead, offer a prayer of forgiveness and try to get away from the person who brings the contempt out of you. Honestly, don’t let your anger cause you to say things that you will one day end up regretting for the rest of your life.

I always try to remember what my Uncle always said when he was alive, “Don’t Ring That Bell, Christy!”

©2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on Personal Experience

Posted in addiction, anger, Change, Crystal S. Kauffman, Forgiveness, Life

On The Road to Recovery


Ok, everything you; once loved or cared about is gone! Are you going to lay in bed and cry, while the rest of the world moves on without you? Sometimes, through our bad choices in life we become toxic to others and they decide to remove themselves from our lives to save their own sanity, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t love you anymore.

It just means, you need to focus on making better choices and rebuilding a lifestyle that others can accept. Start, by figuring out “WHO YOU TRULY ARE!” underneath the pain and shame, that covers your heart like a thick winter coat. You have you to peel back each layer of guilt, in order to find the frightened child that you abandoned so long ago.

Now, you will need to make two notebooks with simple section dividers and papers. Make each each notebook a different color and keep them near your sitting area, because you will be writing in them a lot. Look in your kitchen cabinet for a simple coffee cup to place a couple pens in, just in case you have a thought and you need to find a pen quickly.

Start, by setting daily goals in one notebook like: remembering to take your medicine or cleaning your house. Write stuff that can be achieved from the time that the sun rises in the morning until the sun sets in the evening. Next, you will create weekly goals, monthly goals, and yearly goals. Then, use your second notebook to begin in journaling your thoughts like in a journal or diary.

Unfortunately, you have to accept that your life has violently changed and that it will never be the same as it was. Your spouse or children may never comeback, but if you feel lonely and depressed all the time. Look into adopting a pet from a local shelter that needs you, but are you a cat or a dog person. Yes, there is a major difference, since a cat requires little care and a dog requires constant supervision.

However, you must be a responsible person to own a pet, because they are like children and do require daily care. You can go to an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or (NA) Narcotic Anonymous meetings or church, in order to find friends that will support you on your journey to recovery. Don’t discouraged if you fail, because your loved one will notice that you are at least out there trying to change.

Whatever you do, just do ii! The hardest step is the first one and each step gets easier as long as you are moving. Find out what your problem and seek treatment, while creating new friends and new places to hang out. Don’t go back to what broke you and don’t invite more drama into your life.

(c) 2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on my Personal Experience.