Change is Hard, But it is Necessary!


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Many times in your life, you will need to evaluate the people who are in your life and their actual value to your life. You will need to ask yourself some important questions about their true character, before you hang out with them for even a moment.Remember, cut ties with any family and friends who are absolutely toxic to your recovery. However, some people are dangerous to your head and you need to know who they are.

These type of people will literally drain every ounce your joy and happiness, because they refuse to get help for their own mental issues. These people tend to be negative and mean, especially when you have good news Unfortunately, they will make you feel like you cannot do nothing right, because they will say negative things about you to your face. The disrespect is constant and tiresome, but you try to overlook these negative qualities because you love them.

Honestly, the pain of letting go, actually hurts less than to stay and endure this type of mental abuse from anyone around you. You may think you need someone, but you don’t need to be bullied in today’s modern society. Honestly, there is cell phone applications for all that you may need: from shopping for groceries, buying restaurant dinners or fast food, clothes, household items, delivery, and rides as needed.

Never allow someone to talk to you that way and always look out for yourself, because no person will ever love you like you love yourself, Don’t give a negative person a single second of your time, because you will end up letting their words enter your head. Don’t spend a second too long, wondering what is wrong with you because of the things these type of people say to you. Truth is, there is nothing wrong with you, they just don’t respect or value you as a person,

So, with that said, identify these people immediately and stop allowing them to enter your life in any type of way. Ask yourself about how a person makes you feel, whenever they talk to you or when they are hanging with you? Only keep the positive people around you, because you will find encouragement and wisdom from them. Now, take inventory of your loved ones today and change the narrative of your story from a negative to positive.

Copyrighted 2019

It’s Not the Situation, But How You React That Matters


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Many times people will take you wrong whether over texting or even face to face, because of how they perceive what you are saying. Unfortunately, you can’t change the way someone reacts to your communications or actions. You can control how you react to anything that they say to you or how they act toward you. Don’t participate in their craziness, by just not talking to them or quickly walking away from the situation.

Never allow someone to ruin your peace, because they have misunderstood what you have texted them or have spoken to them. The negativity will destroy you and cause you to second guess who you are, because they have to see you as the bad guy. Perception is a killer of relationships, but you can try to help them understand but most of the time they won’t listen. So, let that shit go, walk away and keep moving because their opinion means nothing to you and your life.

If they are your partner, take a break and then try to communicate again but sometimes it is just not worth the damn battle. They may get stuck it one train of thought, which becomes a thorn in the relationship and it may grow into a divider that you cannot climb over. Suck it up, keep focused on your goals and don’t react to the petty comments and the bullshit that they will throw at you. Be real and know that you did your best, in order to convey your thoughts, but it was perceived wrong and you cannot change anyone but you!

Copyright 2019

 

Spread Positive Seeds


By, Crystal S. Kauffman-Amon

Sometimes, when I meet a person for the first time, I literally will have to get away from this person as fast as I can. I can just feel their negative energy pouring off of them before they even say a word to me. Immediately, these negative people will have this defeated look that seems to stay with them throughout the time that you are around them.

It gets worse, whenever they talk because they seem full on negative comments or contradictions as they talk. Nothing is ever good enough for them, since life has always been terrible for them and they choose to remain in addiction. However, they don’t realize that they are giving power to the negative energy and words, by planting seeds that will grow.

Instead, be a person who plants positive seeds and spread positive energy everywhere you go throughout your day. There will be disappointments, but don’t dwell on them and become negative or bitter. Take what you have learned and apply it to the next adventure that you plan to take, whether it is a new school or a new job.

Remember, setbacks are temporary and designed to make you feel like a failure, but learn from that setback and make the next moment your comeback. Spread those positive seeds, by helping others who are new in recovery and may need a shoulder to lean on or a friend to help them in their moment of weakness.      

Copyright 2019

(I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal knowledge.)

Know Your Worth


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Watch how you allow people in your life to treat you, because you are teaching them the ways you accept being treated. If a person uses harsh words with you and you allow it, then they will continue to speak to you in this manner. You show people exactly what is acceptable and what is not acceptable to you, whenever you interact with them.

You are responsible for setting the boundaries whether you do it in person or by any other means of communication. Love and respect yourself, while commanding respect from those who are in your inner circle. Never let them talk down to you or call you names, especially a partner just because they are angry with you.

You should never have to tolerate this behavior from anyone, so put your foot down and walk away from anyone who disrespects you. Know your worth and establish what you will not tolerate from the beginning of the friendship. Never allow someone to slide when they treat you bad because of some excuse that they have given you like: they had a bad day or your being difficult.

You deserve to be treated like a queen or a king, so hold your head up high and walk away from the nonsense that you have chosen not to accept. However, remember you can forgive them but don’t ever let the repeat the behavior that hurt you in the first place. Draw your battle lines and play to win, because only you can control how people treat you.

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(PS: I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal experience.)

Thoughts About Life Suckers


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Sometimes, your life can become so overwhelming at times that your chest walls are squeezing so hard like you are in Cardiac Arrest. Next, your breathing will become labored and you may have experienced issues with just trying to catch your breath. Don’t freak out, because it is not an emergency with your physical health but it is a medical condition that will require your immediate attention. You have entered into a full-blown panic attack, which is actually a symptom of a medical condition that is known as Anxiety.  

At this point, it is time to call a psychiatrist and begin evaluating your daily life, as well as identifying the life suckers that are in your daily life. The term life suckers refer to the people in your daily life that excessively needy. These people can literally drain years off your life, due to the extreme amount of stress or drama that this type of person brings into your life. Now, you must step back from everything in your daily circle and pinpoint the life sucker that is draining your life force. 

I bet your thinking to yourself that you have several people in your life, who are extremely needy that they actually suffocate you as a person. The person sucks the joy, peace, hope, and happiness out of your life by making your life miserable. This type of person feeds off the negative energy that they create in your life, by their bad behavior or their negative attitude. They lack respect for your life and mental health because life suckers don’t care about anyone but themselves. 

Just breathe…No matter what! Keep your head held high and limit this person or persons interaction with you. The negative impact on your lifeforce can cause you to lose your peace of mind or it can actually kill you. Stress will make you physically and mentally sick because it causes major damage inside of your body, which is why life suckers can become deadly to you. Therefore, take inventory of the people in your life and figure out what caused you to experience a panic attack. 

Copyrighted by, Crystal S. Kauffman, 2018