You must learn to reprogram your mind, whenever you are fighting to regain control of your life from active addiction. You must remember that you always attract the same energy that you give off to other people. If you are a negative person, then you will magnetically attract negative people in your life. However, when you change the way you think, you will begin to attract positive people in your life.
Many times, you have to walk away from the old friends, in order to make a new life for yourself. Don’t be afraid to change your surroundings, because you will find that better things are waiting for you, once you let go of the negative things in your mind and life that are holding you back. Changing your mindset will allow you to meet new people and land life changing opportunities, which can actually change your entire life.
You will find that being around positive people and thinking about positive things is so much easier than stressing or obsessing about the negative in your life. Create a journal and write down all the positive things in your life every single morning and night. Stay focused on those positive things in your life, in order to continue attracting positive things in your life.
If you begin to think negatively, stop and reprogram your mind immediately! Never let the intrusive negative thoughts overwhelm your mind, since these thoughts can cause you to relapse and you may not make it out of active addiction this time. Always look for the positive things in your life, because they will help you stay focus and give you countless reasons to love your life.
Positive attracts positive, but negative attracts negative. Always remember that!
There are going to be times when you will find out certain things that may hurt or upset you about someone you love. Focus on maintaining your composure and gather your thoughts before you decide to react to the revelation. Sometimes, you must deal with the pain of knowing the truth. Stay silent, but inside you are putting different things together about a person that you have never noticed before.
Each new frame that rolls in your mind will be different snapshots and memories that you have stored in your mind over time. As the pictures, conversations, and actions begin to line up perfectly like a jigsaw puzzle. Honestly, you are now fast approaching an uncontrollable angry explosion, which is known as a click, click…boom moment! Unfortunately, you know the truth based on your own perception of what you have seen or heard.
These thoughts stir up your anger, while you fight to hold back the spontaneous combustion that you know is quickly coming. Stop allowing these thoughts to dominate your mind, instead distract yourself with watching funny videos or listening to upbeat music. Don’t focus on the pain you feel, instead be thankful that you now know the absolute truth and start changing your part in the narrative of your story.
Walk away and let it go, because it is not healthy to hold anger in or to allow it to fester due to the pain you feel at this moment. Stay strong and keep moving away from them, until you are no longer part of their life. Try to identify or learn what triggers your angry outbursts and learn to let go for peace sakes. Remember that becoming angry is natural, but letting your temper explode on your family and friends is not.
During recovery or even in everyday life, you are going to learn quickly that you will only able to control your own situations and circumstances. Honestly, you cannot control the way anyone else chooses to treat you. You can choose to stay away from any person, who hurts you and does not change their behavior once you have discussed the issue. Save your energy and stay away from the craziness, while focusing on the positive things in your life that make you happy.
Controlling when people come to your home, work, or other places that you go can keep your anxiety level down. However, you can also tell visitors to text or call you before a visit, so you can decide if you want to actually have a visitor over at that time. Sometimes, you may just want to be alone because you feel grouchy and full of anxiety. Setting rules with your visitors will help you regain control over your life, while you focus on healing and meditation.
Furthermore, talk to a mentor on how to control your finances if you need help, because you will need to pay rent and electricity in a stable home. You may also have to pay for water, propane, and/or other necessities inside your home. Learning to control your finances will make you proud and give you a sense of freedom that is amazing after dealing with addiction. Therefore, take control of your finances and your life, so you can find the peace and happiness that you long for everyday.
This is our 2016 “Day of Hope” Event. Image copyrighted by Crystal S. Kauffman 2016.
We are currently collecting small gifts and fleece throw blankets for cancer patients at a women’s clinic at a local hospital. The Laugh at Cancer Support Community’s Founder Crystal S. Kauffman will give you the address to send all donations to and answer any questions you may have.
Please help us make 25 to 30 gift bags that have at least 3 small gifts to hand out by donating if you can. With your blessings and support , we can brighten their day with a gift bag that has a few surprises in it.
Also, each women will also receiving a fleece throw blanket to wrap up in during treatment. More information can be found by reading the LACSC ‘s blog and visiting our Facebook page.
Help us spread seeds of joy and smiles, until our members learn to laugh again.
Ways to Donate
Mailing Address: contact Founder by email at email@example.com
.Items Needed: 25 to 30 of each (This year Women items)
There are other things to do to take your mind off things. You need to find people who enjoy the same hobbies that you do. However, you could also learn new obvious that your new friends like.
There are things like fishing, boating, bowling, mudding, racing, horseback riding, and so much more. Look for new things to do, instead of sitting at home and staying stuck inside your own head.
You can find things that do not include other people or a lot of money. However, you may find something that may interest you need to take time to explore new things you and your friends that you have made since you turned your life around.
Never allow anyone to make you feel like there is nothing to do now that you are sober and in recovery. A new life has just begun for you and you should explore new hobbies and friends who live a clean life.
You can make friends at local AA or NA groups, as well as local online groups. Don’t give up on making new friends or new hobbies, just because you’re having a setback at the moment.
Take time to learn from every setback and every new obstacle that you may encounter on your journey. You have the power to change your life, once you’re beaten your demons and have entered recovery.
Look around online for new forms of exercise like: CrossFit, yoga, Pilates, and martial arts to name a few. This new routine of exercising will help you avoid gaining weight once you slay your demons and become sober. Furthermore, Stress can also be managed by creating a regular release system through exercise or new hobbies.
Never allow someone to tear you down or talk down to you, due to the mistakes you have made in the past or even recently. If you have tried to make amends, then you have done your part and you must let the situation go. Nothing you will do can change the outcome, unless the person agrees to forgive you for your transgressions. Stand tall and walk proud, because you are no longer chained to your addiction and you are fighting the good fight of sobriety.
There will be good days and really bad days ahead, but be true to your beliefs and to yourself…first above all else! You matter and you are loved, yet sometimes we lose the ability to see past our own mind which causes us to believe we are utterly alone. Thankfully, you are not alone in this fight and you have so many people ready to help you…whether in an online community or a local AA or NA support group.
Make new friends who are sober and walk away from the toxic so called friends and/or family who continue to use drugs. Above it all, be true to yourself and decide what your future will look like, since you are the captain of your beautiful ship called life. You may be bruised, broken, and shattered from the life you led before you put your addiction away. Take a moment to learn the lessons of your past and remember each lesson, as you guide your ship called LIFE into the future.
Start the healing process today; by leaning on your divine creator…no matter if you believe in God or a Higher Power! Never ever give up on yourself, because you deserve happiness and peace everyday of your life. Take time to heal yourself by talking to a counselor and be sure to check out your mental health as well. Keep your mind healthy and busy, while you learn to navigate the rough waters of sobriety.
If you have kids or a wife, please take time to yourself and this will help you become stronger and more adapt to handling the everyday stresses. If you need to enter a rehab center, please do this immediately so you can start the healing process now. Your family deserves to be safe with you and they do not need to be hurt because you are hurting. Be true to yourself and your family, by doing all that you can to stay sober while healing yourself.
Are you struggling with guilt because of your past addictions? Do you feel like after all you did that no one can honestly love or care about you? Well, no matter how far you were ensnared in addiction, you can be redeemed but you must try to make amends to those you hurt. As long as making amends will not cause more hurt to you or others, you must try to ask for forgiveness and move forward.
Don’t get hung up on your guilt, since all that will do is give you a reason to step backwards and you may die with the next hit or shot. Also, work hard to help those around you in ways that you are able, but don’t let someone else’s problem become your problem. Making bad choices will cost your recovery, so try to make better decisions throughout each day. Call a trusted friend and ask their advice whenever you are unsure of what choice to make.
As you begin taking steps to make amends in your life, you will find that your guilt will no longer be such a heavy burden for you to bear. Remember to just breathe and keep moving forward as you reclaim all that you lost in addiction and more. Go to counseling and AA or NA meetings to learn coping skills that will help you deal with the different emotions that you will feel in recovery. Remember, be humble and just focus on making it through each moment, so you can take it it one day at a time.