Forgiving Yourself and Others (A Devotional)


Written By, Crystal S Kauffman

Have you struggled with forgiving someone, who has hurt you or abused you? Do you find yourself thinking about it a lot lately? If so, this is normal to feel, whenever someone you trust has intentionally hurt you. However, you must find a way to give your hurt and pain to the Lord, for he will release you of the burden of guilt. Then, he will help you learn how to forgive those, who have victimized you or someone you love.

            The first memory verse is: Acts 3:19…“Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord.” (KJV)

            As you recite this verse, remember that you must confess all of your sins against God and others. Once you ask him to forgive you for all of your sins, he is just and will erase all of your sins immediately. For we must spend time, learning exactly what forgiveness truly is, because it can hinder your spiritual growth. Honestly, forgiveness is ceasing to be angry over unacceptable behaviors that have affected you.

            By forgiving someone, you are not giving them your permission to repeat the behaviors that hurt you. Instead, you should recognize the feelings that you feel, since these emotions are only going to cause you pain. Be honest and ask for the forgiveness of others, once you have evaluated your role in the entire situation. This way, you can free yourself, from the burden of bitterness and anger that can lead to depression.  

            The second memory verse is 1 John 1:9…“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (KJV)

            Recite this verse, as you begin your transitional journey from being a victim to becoming a survivor. No matter what has happened in the past, you can fully overcome its negative effect on your life. However, you must forgive others also, for the pain and anguish or their behaviors or actions to stop. But, by allowing the offender to receive mercy, you are becoming worthy of God’s complete forgiveness. 

            No longer will you receive condemnation, instead you will find peace that passes all understanding. In that moment, you will feel the burden of your guilt start melt away as the anguish disappears. Suddenly, all of your past iniquities will be washed away and fully forgotten by your heavenly father. Therefore, you will become a new creature in Christ, who is totally blameless and spotless before God.

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Don’t Ring That Bell


My Uncle once told me that, “Sometimes our words ring a bell when we speak them out loud!”

An unbearable amount of pain can come from someone words, especially when they can literally cut a person’s heart to pieces. Sometimes, people are dealing with things that you may not know about, so be kind when you speak. Lately, I have been trying to watch my own mouth and not say mean things to anyone, since I have been trying to get right with God. However, some days I fail too and my anger erupts like a volcano and I am saying stuff I completely regret.

Do not say something if you don’t mean it, since not everyone will forgive you for the mean things you have said. Everyone can be very mean with their words, but you must change the way you react when you are angry at a person. Try to be quiet and say a prayer, whenever someone seems to be pushing all the right buttons and your anger is swelling. Take a deep breath or listen to your favorite music, which may help you calm down.

Don’t say something that you cannot take back, just because you are angry and someone is relentless and is constantly pushing you to your limit. The anger swells like the lava in a volcano and before long you are spewing venom from your lips. Instead, offer a prayer of forgiveness and try to get away from the person who brings the contempt out of you. Honestly, don’t let your anger cause you to say things that you will one day end up regretting for the rest of your life.

I always try to remember what my Uncle always said when he was alive, “Don’t Ring That Bell, Christy!”

©2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on Personal Experience

On The Road to Recovery


Ok, everything you; once loved or cared about is gone! Are you going to lay in bed and cry, while the rest of the world moves on without you? Sometimes, through our bad choices in life we become toxic to others and they decide to remove themselves from our lives to save their own sanity, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t love you anymore.

It just means, you need to focus on making better choices and rebuilding a lifestyle that others can accept. Start, by figuring out “WHO YOU TRULY ARE!” underneath the pain and shame, that covers your heart like a thick winter coat. You have you to peel back each layer of guilt, in order to find the frightened child that you abandoned so long ago.

Now, you will need to make two notebooks with simple section dividers and papers. Make each each notebook a different color and keep them near your sitting area, because you will be writing in them a lot. Look in your kitchen cabinet for a simple coffee cup to place a couple pens in, just in case you have a thought and you need to find a pen quickly.

Start, by setting daily goals in one notebook like: remembering to take your medicine or cleaning your house. Write stuff that can be achieved from the time that the sun rises in the morning until the sun sets in the evening. Next, you will create weekly goals, monthly goals, and yearly goals. Then, use your second notebook to begin in journaling your thoughts like in a journal or diary.

Unfortunately, you have to accept that your life has violently changed and that it will never be the same as it was. Your spouse or children may never comeback, but if you feel lonely and depressed all the time. Look into adopting a pet from a local shelter that needs you, but are you a cat or a dog person. Yes, there is a major difference, since a cat requires little care and a dog requires constant supervision.

However, you must be a responsible person to own a pet, because they are like children and do require daily care. You can go to an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or (NA) Narcotic Anonymous meetings or church, in order to find friends that will support you on your journey to recovery. Don’t discouraged if you fail, because your loved one will notice that you are at least out there trying to change.

Whatever you do, just do ii! The hardest step is the first one and each step gets easier as long as you are moving. Find out what your problem and seek treatment, while creating new friends and new places to hang out. Don’t go back to what broke you and don’t invite more drama into your life.

(c) 2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on my Personal Experience.

Why Did God Create You?


By, Crystal S. Kauffman, Staff Writer

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Many people wonder why God created them, but the Bible says we were all created for God’s pleasure. I couldn’t wrap my own head around the fact that God made me for his pleasure. I am a sinner who doesn’t deserve God’s mercy or grace. How could God get pleasure for my sinful ways? Everyone sins and fall short of God’s glory. However, through Jesus, we can be forgiven of those sins and be cover by his blood sacrifice.

Rev. 4:12 (KJV) “Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honor and power: for Thou has created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.”

This verse means a lot to me, as someone who truly tries to remember every day to somehow bring God pleasure. I love writing, so I use my talent to try and make sense of my everyday stumbles. Sometimes, I feel like God is right there holding my hand but other times I feel he is distant. However, I truly believe that my sin blocks my relationship with God and I choose to repent. I know I am forgiven when I stumble and fall. He is there to lift me back up, because he loves me.

Psalms 72:13 (KJV) “He shall spare the poor and needy, and shall save the souls of the needy.”

So, now I try to take time to honor God every day. No matter the storm I am facing, I am trying to remember to pray and stay connected with God. I love reading and listening to my Bible, but I use a YOU VERSION app on my phone. I have been learning more and trying to always remember to thank God for each new day that I wake up. I am imperfect and I know that, but God wants me as I am. He can mold me into what he wants me to be with each new step.

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Personal Opinion- God doesn’t make junk!**

**I cannot go to church as regular as I want, but I spend a lot of time praying and seeking God’s guidance in my life. God gives me so much, so I can spend time with God at home and I can work on my failures. I hope this devotional can help you in your walk with God. Keeping a prayer journal can help you learn how to give your problems to God and learn how to pray to him.**

 Thank you for reading and come back to visit.

©2016,Crystal S. Kauffman

 

Coming Home


By, Crystal S Kauffman, Staff Writer

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You’re the one I look to when my life falls apart,
You have had me in your hands from the start.
My life was bleak when I decided to move away,
So today, I come back home to you and here I will stay.

I know you will accept me, so I don’t feel an ounce of fear,
I am humbled, on my knees, and silently listening to hear.
Where do I go next as I choose to let you guide me,
You are the only the one in this world that can set me free.

Only you know where my life will ultimately lead,
I haven’t forgotten that I gave you my heart and its deed.
I have stumbled through life and looked for guidance from all,
Instead, I found a ton of strength the moment I took my fall.

I will continue to grow in the ways you choose for my life,
Despite the trials and tribulations that will cut like a knife.
Lord, I know you are in control of my life and my future,
Therefore, the peace will replace the temporary sutures.

©2012, Crystal S. Kauffman

My Guiding Light


By, Crystal S. Kauffman, Staff Writer

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You’re the one I look to when my life falls apart,
You have had me in your hands from the start.
My life was bleak when I decided to move away,
So today, I come back home to you and here I will stay.

I know you will accept me, so I don’t feel an ounce of fear,
I am humbled, on my knees, and silently listening to hear.
Where do I go next as I choose to let you guide me,
You are the only the one in this world that can set me free.

Only you know where my life will ultimately lead,
I haven’t forgotten that I gave you my heart and its deed.
I have stumbled through life and looked for guidance from all,
Instead, I found a ton of strength the moment I took my fall.

I will continue to grow in the ways you choose for my life,
Despite the trials and tribulations that will cut like a knife.
Lord, I know you are in control of my life and my future,
Therefore, the peace will replace the temporary sutures.

©2012, Crystal S. Kauffman

Nothing Is Impossible With God


By, Crystal S. Kauffman, Staff Writer

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Many times we give up too fast and forget that God has given us a destiny to follow using our talents that he has given each of us. Unfortunately, we believe that the road to our dreams may be far off and impossible to obtain. Throughout life, we tend to forget that God can always open doors for us along the path he has laid out for us. However, we must have faith and belief in what God can do for us, as we pursue our dreams.

The first memory verse is: Matthew 19:26-But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, with men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible. (KJV)

Nothing is impossible with God, so take time to get to know him as your heavenly father and strengthen your faith in him. Additionally, begin studying the Holy Bible, which is God’s letter of love to you and your family. You can begin strengthening your faith and your relationship with your heavenly father, by taking time out to study God’s word daily. Studying allows you to learn how God has helped others he loves, as well as learning how he can help you.

Always pray to your heavenly father daily and allow God to handle your burdens, instead of trying to fix them yourself. He can guide you in the ways that will help you succeed in chasing your dreams, but don’t forget about God after you have found your success. Remember, God knows your heart and he can take your success away. Especially, if it begins to separate you from him, because you know that he is a jealous God.

The second memory verse is: Luke 18:27-And he said, the things which are impossible for men are possible with God. (KJV)

Sometimes, you need to be reminded that God has a purpose for you, because you may lose your faith during everyday life. In addition, you tend to move away from God during the good times in our lives and run to him for help during the crisis and trials we may face in our daily lives. Remember that nothing is impossible with God on your side, so walk proud and know the he has a plan for you. Allow him to guide throughout life’s ups and downs, while following the plan that he has created just for you.

Start including God in on every decision you make, by praying first and waiting on his response to you. Knowing God can help you chase your dreams, as well as removing any obstacles which may pop up throughout your journey. Additionally, trust God to provide all that you need to make your dreams come true. No matter what dream God has given you, remember that the he promises that nothing is impossible for him.

Forgiving Ourselves and Others


By, Crystal S. Kauffman, Staff Writer

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Have you struggled with forgiving someone who has hurt you or abused you? Do you find yourself thinking about it a lot lately? If so, this is normal to feel whenever someone you trust has intentionally hurt you. However, you must find a way to give your hurt and pain to the Lord, for he will release you of the burden of guilt. Then, he will help you learn how to forgive those who have victimized you or someone you love.

The first memory verse is: Acts 3:19, “Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord.”(KJV)

As you recite this verse, remember that you must confess all of your sins against God and others. Once you ask him to forgive you for all of your sins, he is just and will erase all of your sins immediately. For we must spend time, learning exactly what forgiveness truly is, because it can hinder your spiritual growth. Honestly, forgiveness is ceasing to be angry over unacceptable behaviors that have affected you.

By forgiving someone, you are not giving them your permission to repeat the behaviors that hurt you. Instead, you should recognize the feelings that you feel, since these emotions are only going to cause you pain. Be honest and ask for the forgiveness of others, once you have evaluated your role in the entire situation. This way, you can free yourself, from the burden of bitterness and anger that can lead to depression.

The second memory verse is 1 John 1:9, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”(KJV)

Recite this verse, as you begin your transitional journey from being a victim to becoming a survivor. No matter what has happened in the past, you can fully overcome its negative effect on your life. However, you must forgive others also, for the pain and anguish or their behaviors or actions to stop. But, by allowing the offender to receive mercy, you are becoming worthy of God’s complete forgiveness.

No longer will you receive condemnation, instead you will find peace that passes all understanding. In that moment, you will feel the burden of your guilt start melt away as the anguish disappears. Suddenly, all of your past iniquities will be washed away and fully forgotten by your heavenly father. Therefore, you will become a new creature in Christ, who is totally blameless and spotless before God.

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©2015, Crystal S. Kauffman

Frog: Fully Rest on God


By, Crystal S. Kauffman, Staff Writer

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Do you feel overwhelmed by life, as you know it? Are you a Christian, who is struggling to find peace and rest in your daily life? Did you know that God has promised to give you rest each week? But, only if you met his conditions and learn to believe in his promises with faith. Then, you must fulfill God’s conditions, in order to receive the rest that he has waiting for you. His conditions are very important, because your obedience shows him that you truly believe in his promises to you.
First memory verse is Hebrews 4: 9, “There remaineth therefore a rest to the people of God!”(KJV)
Did you know that God is there waiting for you, to enter into his rest? But, you must remember the Sabbath and keep it holy. Don’t perform any work on this day, instead, use this special day to spend time with God. Start learning more about his promises to you, by setting aside a certain day of the week to rest and read his word. Many Christians believe that Sunday should be the only holy day. However, other religions believe that Saturday is the true Sabbath day.
In today’s culture, some people are forced to work on these days. So, they must choose a different day to keep holy and begin learning more about his promises. Starting today, choose a day, which you have off work each week, like Monday or Wednesday. Then, each week, honor him by believing and entering into his peaceful rest. Before long, you will find yourself fully resting on God’s promises and sharing in fellowship with God.
Second memory verse is Hebrews 4:10,”For he that has entered into his rest, he also hath ceased from his own works, as God did from his.”(KJV)
In the beginning, God labored for six days and he rested on the seventh day. He gave you an example, which you should follow throughout your journey. Even, if you stumble and fall, God will be there to help you back to your feet. He will be there waiting patiently, for you to meet his conditions and receive his promises. So, remember to keep the Sabbath holy and you will finally enter into his rest and find the peace that you have longed for.
Your father will give you a peace that passes all understanding, once you have faithfully entered his rest. Only God can ease your troubled mind and heal your broken heart, but you must come to him first. Go ahead and lay your head upon his chest, while his love will cover your soul and wisdom will fill your heart. Therefore, you will find the rest, which God have promised you and peace that will sustain your soul.
©2015, Crystal S. Kauffman

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The Good Fight


good fight timothyIn the daily trials that you face, you begin learning more about yourself and your desires. You learn how much you can handle, without God at your side. Soon, you will learn how to let him take control of your entire life. He has given freewill to choose and dream, like everyone else in the world. However, he is waiting for you to choose him and give allow him know your innermost desires. By allowing him to guide you, he can deliver the things that you never dream of.

The first memory verse is Psalms 23:1 “The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.” (KJV)

Your spiritual father knows exactly what you want, even when you aren’t sure yourself. However, you must believe that he is capable of fulfilling your needs. So, rely on your faith and he will give you all of your dreams and desires. But, he will provide them in his own time and in his own way, which means you must stay faithful to him. Just allow your faith to grow and become stronger, by leaning on him throughout the daily trials in your life.

No matter what you want, you will be able to achieve it with faith and belief in God’s promises. He is there holding you, throughout your life changing lessons. However, rely on him to pull you through, as he promised that he would if you just believe. He will never forsake you or leave, so let home take over and hold steadfast to your faith. Life is a struggle each day, as you try to manage work and personal responsibilities.

The second memory verse is: 2 Timothy 4:7 “I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith.” (KJV) 

Recite this verse everyday and believe it, because you are fighting the good fight. You must keep your faith, in order to finish your journey here on earth. Once you have finished, you will be given your reward by God himself. So, slow down and enjoy what your life has to offer and continue fighting for what you believe. Always remember to take time for your spiritual father and he will gently guide you through the obstacles in your life.

Only you can write the next page in your story called life, so began writing today for tomorrow maybe too late. As a Christian you will be forced into trials and tribulations, by those around you that don’t believe. However, the Lord will help you stand tall and face those people, who try to manipulate your life. Therefore, you will find yourself moving closer to your spiritual father, who is helping you finish the winding course.