Time to Reprogram Your Mind


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman, Staff Writer

You must learn to reprogram your mind, whenever you are fighting to regain control of your life from active addiction. You must remember that you always attract the same energy that you give off to other people. If you are a negative person, then you will magnetically attract negative people in your life. However, when you change the way you think, you will begin to attract positive people in your life.

Many times, you have to walk away from the old friends, in order to make a new life for yourself. Don’t be afraid to change your surroundings, because you will find that better things are waiting for you, once you let go of the negative things in your mind and life that are holding you back. Changing your mindset will allow you to meet new people and land life changing opportunities, which can actually change your entire life.

You will find that being around positive people and thinking about positive things is so much easier than stressing or obsessing about the negative in your life. Create a journal and write down all the positive things in your life every single morning and night. Stay focused on those positive things in your life, in order to continue attracting positive things in your life.

If you begin to think negatively, stop and reprogram your mind immediately! Never let the intrusive negative thoughts overwhelm your mind, since these thoughts can cause you to relapse and you may not make it out of active addiction this time. Always look for the positive things in your life, because they will help you stay focus and give you countless reasons to love your life.

Positive attracts positive, but negative attracts negative. Always remember that!

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Build A Life That You Love


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Changing your life can be extremely difficult with the many different temptations around you. Most of the time, you are far away from the temptation, but sometimes it can be right in your face. This temptation can actually be in the form of a person, who just happened to dropped by to visit you after months or years of not communicating.

Right then, you must decide how you will handle this blast from your past. Will you choose the easy way out, which is to give into temptation? However, you could also visit for a few moments and then politely excuse yourself from the nerve racking situation. Only, you can choose what you will do when you face certain daily temptations.

Be sure to keep your support system on speed dial, because giving in to temptation is not worth the amount of guilt that you will face after your relapse. Stay completely away from circumstances and situations that will challenge your strength, while adding new things that completely inspire you. Start by creating a life that makes it easier for you to remain sober, because you are doing things that you enjoy despite the degree of temptation.

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Temptation Moved In Next Store


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By, Imogen Rayne

Two months ago, temptation literally moved in next store to me. I became anxious and worried about my own path to recovery as an recovering addict. I have over two years clean from an addiction to Crack cocaine. I didn’t use regularly, but I fell too many times into an addiction trying to beat an addiction to opiates.

First of all, I became angry to see the dealer pull up to his house. Then, I got even angrier when he borrowed something from me and it didn’t matter what it was. Honestly, I never really fought the urge to use that drug again, but I fought the urge to not feel the pain that I feel ever since my cancer treatment within my stomach, back, and legs.

I am so proud of myself, because I was able to truly overcome the devil and keep moving forward in my own recovery and my life. For a moment, I did become weak and I immediately leaned on my support system. They each guided me in the steps to take daily as this drug is displayed in my face on a regular basis.

Most of all, I am praying for the addict, which is all I can do to be honest. I am damn proud of myself for continuing to rock sobriety, even when others thought I would not make it in my sober journey. Additionally, I have had a stable home for nine months and I have worked hard to make amends with my family and friends.

If you are rocking sobriety, give me a “Hell yeah” in the comments!

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Beating the Blues…  


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Do you ever feel like you are alone, when you are in the midst of life’s storm? Do you ever wonder where God is, as the bricks of life start to crumble around you? It is natural to get angry or afraid, but you don’t have to let it consume your mind. Sometimes, it is easy to forget all of God’s promises, which he made just for you. So, here is a verse for you to copy and memorize, for whenever you feel abandoned or blue.

Deuteronomy 30: 8, “And the Lord, he it is that do go before thee; he will be with thee, He will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: fear not, neither be dismayed.” (KJV)

Have faith and believe that he is with you always, no matter where you are. As you recite, imagine a spiritual blanket of peace and comfort for you to rest in. You will begin a transition in a new person that you have always wanted to be. Remember, he chose you to be a soldier in his army, who is able to stand in the face of trials and tribulations. God will lovingly bring to your knees, so you can become stronger and stand in the midst of life’s trials.

Each day he wants to give you more wisdom, which found in the Bible. He will shape your life and mold you in his grace, while chasing the blues away. God doesn’t want you to feel alone or to fear his presence. Instead, he wants us to crave the meat of his word and personal time with him. When you find your comfort in his arms, grow spiritually by allowing you to experience these trials. Your spiritual father knows that you are not perfect and that you will fail, but his mercy is there waiting to catch you.

The next memory verse is Romans 3:23, “For we all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.” (KJV)

Fortunately, he forgives you for your mistakes and he welcomes you back into his comforting embrace.  But, you must be sincere and willing to learn what he has to teach you. When Life is scary or out of control, you must turn to him. Always remember that God won’t give you more than you can bear, since he is with you always. Learn more about his promises to you, by spending time with his word every day.

Remember, God is always in control! So, give him the reins and let him guide your path to spiritual happiness. You will find unconditional love and forgiveness, which is beyond any human understanding or capabilities. By allowing him to mold you into a new person, you become fully protected by God’s spiritual armor. Therefore, as you grow, you will find the spiritual peace and rest that you have always longed for.

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Stop Worrying and Count Each Blessing


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Are you constantly worrying about everything so much that you are now dealing with anxiety, which has required medications to stay calm? Does the medication make you feel off your game, which makes you doubt yourself in your career? It is easy for others to say stop worrying, because they are not wearing your shoes or living your life. However, I want to give a way to combat the negativity that consumes your mind and body whenever you spend precious energy worrying about stuff you can and cannot control.

I challenge you to join me in counting each blessing throughout the day and let’s see if we can combat this anxiety together. No matter what you believe, you can find blessings all throughout you’re day and night if you think about it. First, just waking up in the morning is a blessing; as well as having food to eat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.  If you have a job, then that is another blessing and having a vehicle is another major blessing. Once you start looking and counting your blessings, you will notice that you have a lot of reasons to smile instead of frown.

No matter what you day holds, just count your blessings and focus on looking for new ones that are happening to you. You may have a job promotion, a raise in pay, or some other positive thing happen to you. Count all of those and you will notice your anxiety disappear and you will be smiling more, while others are dealing with severe anxiety. Then, you can inspire them to count their many blessings and you may even watch them smile again.

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Be True To Yourself!


By, Crystal S Kauffman

Never allow someone to tear you down or talk down to you, due to the mistakes you have made in the past or even recently. If you have tried to make amends, then you have done your part and you must let the situation go. Nothing you will do can change the outcome, unless the person agrees to forgive you for your transgressions. Stand tall and walk proud, because you are no longer chained to your addiction and you are fighting the good fight of sobriety.

There will be good days and really bad days ahead, but be true to your beliefs and to yourself…first above all else! You matter and you are loved, yet sometimes we lose the ability to see past our own mind which causes us to believe we are utterly alone. Thankfully, you are not alone in this fight and you have so many people ready to help you…whether in an online community or a local AA or NA support group.

Make new friends who are sober and walk away from the toxic so called friends and/or family who continue to use drugs. Above it all, be true to yourself and decide what your future will look like, since you are the captain of your beautiful ship called life. You may be bruised, broken, and shattered from the life you led before you put your addiction away. Take a moment to learn the lessons of your past and remember each lesson, as you guide your ship called LIFE into the future.

Start the healing process today; by leaning on your divine creator…no matter if you believe in God or a Higher Power! Never ever give up on yourself, because you deserve happiness and peace everyday of your life. Take time to heal yourself by talking to a counselor and be sure to check out your mental health as well. Keep your mind healthy and busy, while you learn to navigate the rough waters of sobriety.

If you have kids or a wife, please take time to yourself and this will help you become stronger and more adapt to handling the everyday stresses. If you need to enter a rehab center, please do this immediately so you can start the healing process now. Your family deserves to be safe with you and they do not need to be hurt because you are hurting. Be true to yourself and your family, by doing all that you can to stay sober while healing yourself.

Stay Strong!!!

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Escaping Depression’s Brutal Snare


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

It is normal to feel down or sad at times, because we are human and we are filled with a range of different emotions. Some common emotions we feel are love, anger, happiness , sadness, loneliness, hopeless, fear, shame, pride, and jealousy. However, actual depression is completely different, since it doesn’t just go away after a few days. Depression is a mental health disorder that usually requires medications and a therapist or a counselor that can teach you ways to combat or cope with your every day life.

If you are feeling hopeless and worthless most every day, please talk to Someone and get help. Don’t allow yourself to become ensnared by depression’s brutal grip, because untreated depression can literally cause you to harm yourself or others. Did you know that depression may just be a symptom of an undiagnosed mental health disorders like: PTSD, Bipolar, ADD or ADHD, and/or anxiety?

Honestly, you will need to seek help to overcome the symptoms of depressions that you are experiencing. Especially, before you become suicidal or broken apart by circumstances you cannot control. Sometimes, your treatment will include prescription medications and speaking to separate therapist.
You will learn effective coping skills for the mental issues you face, but you must be truthful about your situation.

Don’t ever feel weak for asking for help, because it is a sign of strength to admit you have lost control of your life. Many factors can cause depression like dealing with health, relationship, and work issues. However, your addictions can cause depression as well, but just admitting you have a problem is half the battle of becoming free of addiction’s brutal clutch. Some people will look to God or their higher power to help them whenever they are trying to overcome their symptoms of depression. You can beat this, but It requires you to be brutally honest with yourself and others in your life.

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(I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal experience.

Know Your Worth


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Watch how you allow people in your life to treat you, because you are teaching them the ways you accept being treated. If a person uses harsh words with you and you allow it, then they will continue to speak to you in this manner. You show people exactly what is acceptable and what is not acceptable to you, whenever you interact with them.

You are responsible for setting the boundaries whether you do it in person or by any other means of communication. Love and respect yourself, while commanding respect from those who are in your inner circle. Never let them talk down to you or call you names, especially a partner just because they are angry with you.

You should never have to tolerate this behavior from anyone, so put your foot down and walk away from anyone who disrespects you. Know your worth and establish what you will not tolerate from the beginning of the friendship. Never allow someone to slide when they treat you bad because of some excuse that they have given you like: they had a bad day or your being difficult.

You deserve to be treated like a queen or a king, so hold your head up high and walk away from the nonsense that you have chosen not to accept. However, remember you can forgive them but don’t ever let the repeat the behavior that hurt you in the first place. Draw your battle lines and play to win, because only you can control how people treat you.

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(PS: I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal experience.)

Coping With New Sobriety


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Congratulations on successfully escaping your addiction and joining thousands of others who are on the road to recovery. However, rejoining society after a stint in rehab, jail, or self-imposed isolation can be very difficult at times. Everywhere you turn, you will see something that reminds you of your time spent in the grip of your addiction. Just breathe throughout each temptation and keep moving forward, while reminding yourself that you don’t live there anymore.

Never allow yourself to become overwhelmed by the temptation you will face in society, instead let it empower you. Walk away and smile, because you have just won another huge victory in your personal recovery! You may feel alone or like you have lost everyone, but the truth is you have gained yourself throughout the storm of addiction and that is more valuable than 100 fake friends. Make new friends who can encourage you whenever you feel weak, especially if you do not have a sponsor through your rehab or AA program.

You will run into the people that you used with, but you must remind yourself that they were never your friend in the first place. Always remember that they used you to feed their addiction too, by making sure you stayed hooked on whatever substance you used and they probably pushed you to share. Ask yourself, have you heard from them since you started your journey to become sober? Have they even bothered to call and check up on you or have they just distanced themselves from you?

Don’t give into temptation because you run in to an old so-called friends that still uses and asks if you want to get high or drunk. Temptation is all around you when you are trying to avoid alcohol, because of the television commercials and stores you visit every day. You must cling to your higher power and just breathe through it and get away from the situation as soon as you can. One day, the temptation will not be as strong; instead you will be able to handle it without falling apart inside.   

Stay away from the old places you used to frequent where the dealers hang out, even if it is your work place or the neighborhood store. Do not be afraid to change your entire routine or get a new job, if you have to in order to remain sober and in recovery. You did whatever it took to get high or drunk, now dig deep and do what you got to do to stay clean. Raise your head high and be proud of yourself, because you are learning how to cope with and beat your addiction…one day at a time!

@2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on my Personal Experience.

Are You At Rock Bottom?


Well, you have finally managed to hit what many people call,“hitting rock bottom”. This stage or point in life is when you lose everything and everyone you know due to bad choices. Most of the time the series of bad choices is associated with addiction to drugs, alcohol, and mental disorders, and chronic diseases has brought to your knees.

Your world has completely stopped turning because you have just lost your home, your spouse, your job, your children, or even your beloved pets. When this happens, you may feel or think that no one will ever forgive you or speak to you again.

You are absolutely wrong! This is a crucial point in your life that can go bad or good from here. Now, what should you do with your life, since losing everything that meant anything to you? You are where you are because of your recent or long-term bad choices that you have made so far. You can blame everyone around you for the reason that you are angry or depressed. Each of the bad choices was made by you and whoever your blaming it on.

First, are you willing to admit to yourself that you actually do have a problem and that you need to seek out help? Unfortunately, you cannot take away the mistakes you made, but you can begin taking steps toward creating a future that you alone can be proud of. Yeah, it is going to be scary or hard and you may even fail a few times at first, yet keep trying and refuse to give up! No matter how crappy you feel, especially on the days that just won’t end and you feel like you have been battered or bruised.

Just give it all up and let it go, no it’s not easy but that is the only thing you can do. Especially, on days that make you question allthe progress that you have made so far. Be honest with yourself and admit defeat, next admit your own blame and let God or your higher power help you achieve your next goal and so forth. Soon you will gain traction and you will see things begin to change, but this will not happen overnight though.

Believe in yourself and know that you are going try and fail, but you are making good choices which will help you find blessings along the way. You should seek counseling program or other addiction programs like rehab center near you. These rehab centers may also be obtained through your local community centers or church outreach programs. Look around your communityor call your insurance, so you can receive the professional help you will need.

When you’re ready to pick up the scattered pieces of your life, begin by admitting that you need help to someone you trust. Then, you can begin getting the treatment that you need to recover and take back your life. Be willing to make amends, with anyone you hurt whenever you lose control of your life in such a way that you begin spiraling towards your rock bottom. Your worth fighting for, so call someone you trust now and get the help you need.

Remember to focus your energy on learning to love yourself despite your painful past, while taking each future step slowly. Each day is a gift and some days will feel exciting orrefreshing, but some days will feel like you have stepped into a living a nightmare. Don’t let anyone tell you that you cannot change your hopeless situation into a hopeful beginning.

However, first you must be brutally honest with yourself and someone that you trust.

*Suicide is not an option under any circumstances, because you mustremain alive to achieve recovery and healing.*

Disclaimer: I am not a Licensed Therapist or Counselor. I amsharing I what I learned through my own personal experience.

©2019, Crystal S. Kauffman